The Right to Bare Arms

so i was reading the commentary yesterday about how people are hating on michelle obama for rocking the sleeveless tops and dresses.  seriously?  am i the only one that finds this funny?  i guess one has to nitpick when you can find very little wrong… if it’s not her eyebrows, it’s her hair, if it’s not her hair, it’s her choice of clothing…and how dare she show her guns!   i’m sorry but i’d rather look at michelle’s arms which are nice and toned than someone who when they wave, looks like they are about to take flight due to all the flesh swinging; just saying.   soon they’ll be tripping about her height and saying she shouldn’t wear high heels because it makes her taller than the president. *insert eyeroll*

but help me to understand why her opting go sleeveless is relevant?  i mean, really, how is it inappropriate?  she’s not showing excessive amounts of cleavage, she barely has her gams out,  and she wears clothes that are fit and tailored; not tight.  to me, her physical appearance is inspirational.  here she is a mother of two, who clearly exercises and knows how to dress for her shape.  you have to admire that.  she is also young and shouldn’t try to dress like the previous first ladies.  God forbid she put on something Barbara Bush-like, and if she did, again, she would be criticized for not dressing her age.  you can’t win.

i think the issue is that michelle makes us look at women with a new lens.  not only is her public figure making white america look at black women differently, but it also makes black america look at themselves differently.  she is a strong woman who seems to have great character and doesn’t need a silly song like survivor, independent women, or (remember 90’s girl?!! ) to describe who she is.  some people are taken aback by her self confidence and assurance.  i think even women of color who are uncertain about themselves fall prey to the trap of hateration and want michelle to “cover up” because how dare she show that you can have children and still be fit.  and i’m still confused how it is a sign of disrespect (there are still some members of my church who take issue with “arms being out”). her poise sends a message that some are uncomfortable hearing and seeing.

all i can say is, michelle, do you.  you are probably in way better shape in your 40s than i am in my late 20s.  can’t knock you for owning your sense of style.

I Can Be Your Private Dancer

help me to understand why a woman would decide to become a stripper dancer at the age of 40?  and help me to understand why four years later she wants to file a complaint against the strip club that fired her because she was too old?  did she really see herself having a long career in this “field”?! granted if the “girls” still sit up (with a good bra), the body is descent and you can still make your way up that pole and shake that thang, who are we to stop you….or pay you for that matter.  can you break a ten?

Watch Your Back

So I’m surveying the web, looking for something to write about today.  My apologies for yesterday, I was not feeling well, and to be honest, I was uninspired to write anything. Anyway, just when I think that I might have to dig in my mental file cabinet for a topic, I find this.

 

Unfortunately, this story didn’t totally take me aback because earlier this year I read about this young man’s story.  Whether his allegations are real or not, the mere decision to create a video like that is just sickening.  People; help me to understand what is really going on.  Are people so damaged that they result to this kind of behavior?

 

Obviously these lewd acts have no respect of sexual preference.  The first story is about men trying to infect other men at a gay party through injection, and the other, a male claiming to infect 1500 females by having sex with them.  Both of these cases are disturbing and disgusting to me. Today, the world is facing terrorism in ways we’ve never seen before.  And the spectrum of terror seems to be growing.  There are people who are trying to give a deadly disease to people, ON PURPOSE.  What for?  I don’t know or quite understand the thought process these people take to infect the unassuming victims, but I can believe that it starts with a four letter word.  Hate.

 

In college I met an attractive young man who told me that if he revealed to me how many women he had slept with in college I would get up and leave.  Well, without telling me, he told me, and I stayed.  I looked at him and before jumping to judgment, I asked “why?”  If I recall correctly, there was a young woman that he was interested in his first year in college.  He cared for her deeply and her feelings weren’t mutual.  Having tasted heartbreak and disappointment his M.O. (ironically the initials fit his nickname) was to sleep with as many woman as he could.  This was a way of getting back at her.  Yeah, doesn’t make since to me either, but everyone finds a way to justify their actions.  He was angry, hurt, and wanted revenge in some kind of way. In hindsight I can see that there were other broken pieces to his cracked canvas.

 

The men mentioned above, just like my old friend, have their own agenda.  It could be that they got infected with the virus and in their own anger and self-pity wanted the world to suffer with them.  In this instance, sharing is SO not caring.  But it does make you think about your safety.  You think you are just going to an orgy party, and BAM, you’re hit with a rape drug and injected with HIV.  Or you think you meet a descent guy and you hook up, and then you find out you’re on a list of people this man has infected. People do not seem to value human life anymore.  When you feel the right and freedom to take the life of someone else…It’s a scary and dirty world out there.  Be careful.

what???

help me to understand donovan mcnabb and phili’s coaching staff, why, WHY, would you hand over the ball with under two minutes left in the game when your team is down by five!  huh?!  who called that play?! and the play was called, not once but twice!  yeah, i understand that you were only a yard short of a down, but people, you put the ball in donovan’s hands.  i mean, you were at the 40! he’s donovan mcnabb. he’s one of the best quarterbacks in the league! he can throw a freakin’ ball!  please, help me to understand why you would do something so stupid? see, sometimes it’s the coaches that lose the game.

anyway, happy monday people.

Excuse Me But Do You Have Any Wipes?

okay, so a co-worker was nice anough to give my husband extra tickets to the friday night bulls game.  i’ve never been to a professional basketball game in my life so i was kind of excited to go.  yes, i know, i’ve lived in chicago almost my entire life and have never been to a bulls game. get over it. anyway, the tickets were for a lower level suite…you know with free food, refreshments, and the nice comfy leather seats.  not too shabby for a first time visitor.  well, we finally get up to the suite and the co-worker that gave us the tickets gets ready to greet us.  i watch as he switches his sandwich from his right to left-hand, licks the honey mustard off of the fingers of his right hand and…wait for it, sticks it out to give mike a handshake!  who does that?  who likes their fingers and then tries to shake your hand?!  i’m not sure if it just caught mike off gaurd because he ends up shaking it. this is the first time i’m meeting this dude and i didn’t want to be rude so i just smile really big and nod as i slowly take a step back.  that’s a good enough first time greet for me thank you very much.  i mean,  due to this guy being disorganized, gave mike the passes but not the tickets for the suite so we had to wait downstairs for fifteen minutes to finally get escorted up.  and mike had given him my resume last year and didn’t do a thing with it.  with all things being considered, i think our first meeting was appropriate.  i’m just saying, it’s not like i was planning on having this man become the godfatherof future children or anything.  like i’d let him touch my child with such nasty hands.  gross.

Domino Effect

So I’m catching up on my episodes of Grey’s Anatomy.  The one that I ended watching last night had an interesting subplot.  The hospital was going to perform a Domino Surgery; that means there will be organ donors (in this case six) that match an equal amount of donor recipients.   The transplants will happen simultaneously.   If any of the donors decide to back out, it can botch the whole thing, therefore creating a domino effect.

 

One of the patients needing a new kidney is a married man.  His wife isn’t a match for him but she is to another woman having the surgery.  The person that is his match is a young woman in her twenties who isn’t related to any of the other patients.  Everyone praises her for being so selfless, including the wife of this man.  So much so, that the she even tells the young woman that she is like Mother Theresa to her.  At this point the young woman starts yelling at the man and pleads for him to tell his wife about their affair.  Affair!  The wife overhears and of course becomes outraged and heartbroken.  She tells her husband that she knew that there were other woman but this was the final straw.  She had given him her life, her love, everything she had, but she wasn’t going to give him her kidney.

 

Long story short, she is gently persuaded to reconsider donating her kidney because her decision doesn’t just effect his life, but the lives of almost a dozen people.  The surgery is performed and all three people in desperate need of a kidney get one.  Viewers then witness the young mistress complaining that the man hadn’t called her since the surgery.  Her doctor in a frank tone tells her, “He hasn’t asked for you or called.  I think he’s made his decision.”  You watch as the revelation hits her as she realizes that she had given three years of her life to this man, and a kidney! She did all of that and to no real surprise, it wasn’t enough to make him leave his wife.

 

Now, help me to understand why this poor girl thought that after three years that this man was going to leave his wife for her?  More often then not, the married man stays married.  Also, help me to understand why a woman knowing her husband was adulterous, never confronted him about it?  And help me to understand why this man thought that he could have this important procedure without his wife not finding out that his donor was his chick on the side?

 

Now the show of course doesn’t have time to give the audience the inside story of this man’s life.  We don’t know why he decided to go outside his marriage.  We can only conclude that he was willing to trade false intimacy with real intimacy.  Choosing lust over love ended up causing a domino effect of its own.  We see how this man fulfilling his own desires not only effected his wife, but the lives of ten other people; nine who were perfect strangers.  If his wife’s heart wasn’t changed, people could have died because of his affair! Please help me to understand why people don’t realize that their actions have consequences?

 

This situation left three people broken.  Who knows how long it would take for the wounds to heal.  I believe that God has given us free will.  He lets us decide what we want to do with it.  Most of the time we choose to do what makes us feel good and not consider if it’s God has a perfect will for us.  Sometimes choosing to go His way may mean that we have to walk away from something we want.  However, in turning away from what we want, we are introduced to something far greater.